Dating, the trust between two people can be, understanding to develop. In turn, the loss of trust comes from value judgments and jumps to conclusions. Although the value of judgments is a lot of human nature, but if the effort to overcome, you will become the other side of trust and need of that person.
What is value judgment? English can value judgment or being judgmental, is to use their own values and views of thing to explain the behavior of others, and completely ignore the feelings and cricumstances of each other's personal. This interpretation is very abstract, so last week I and everyone rushes to give a lot of examples of value judgments. For example, a child learning bad, probably because they are not interested in learning. or can not find a way, but to talk with their parents, get the answer is: it is because you stupid, you do not work. The result of such a reply may be that you no longer want to talk to their parents about the problem of learning.
Our lives are full of value judgments, we are accustomed to stand in their own point of view of others, and then to others. This result is the loss of the trust of each other, so that the other side is very insecure continue to tell you the bare voice I have encountered many interesting scenes, when my date told me about her sexuality, her emotional experience, her quirks and so on, a lot of times this is a test, throwing you a more sensitive topic. see how you react. Encountered such a situation. a very strong tendency to value judgment may immediately begin to express their views, that homosexuality is not natural, ex-boyfriend should be cut off from the quirks make you feel ridiculous and silent and so on. If you have such a reaction, then the other party may immediately decide and you do not go too close, because you are not interested in understanding the feelings and motives of the parties, but only care about their own views of the expression. And the other will be like the previously mentioned criticism of the children, like, and then do not want to discuss the relevant issues with you.
Like to do value judgments, in fact, is a very profound social and psychological topics, the workshop we all feel this. But in the context of love dating, just hope you can have their own understanding of the value of the habit of judgment, and then try to avoid intentionally or unintentionally jump to conclusions. In my view, any person doing anything to make themselves happy, satisfied, but sometimes people choose the method is not recognized by others. Therefore, when we understand other people's past, we should avoid from their own point of view to infer the intentions of others, but first understand the feelings of others, and then to understand those feelings arising from the behavior. This is an important point among dating, but also interpersonal communication which should always remember the point. Whether it is not a date, if you do have such a tolerance and understanding of the heart, you are hard not to be trusted, do not make people feel worthy of dependence and attachment.
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